It’s a tricky one, children at weddings. They are quite an adult occasion, yet if your friends have got a couple of kids or even you as a couple do, you might need to take a look into how you might accommodate them.
This blog is aimed primarily at how to entertain little people; however, I have come across it many times where the bride and groom would actually only like the parents at the wedding. Maybe this will be because the venue doesn’t suit children or indeed they aren’t permitted, maybe it is because their guest count is at the maximum capacity and they cannot fit anyone else in. or it could be that they just want a more ‘grown up’ day and they want their friends to enjoy it completely without having to keep an eye at all times.
It is a worry that by inviting guests to weddings without their children, you run the risk of offending them. I think this all stems down to how it is approached, it is ideal if you can speak to the parents before sending out the invites and explain that as much as you want their whole family there, it isn’t feasible on this occasion. You can then go on to perhaps detail your reasons or in most cases you might not need to, you can simply say that it is going to be a very adult influenced day and that you want them to come and party with you till dawn and get tiddly without worrying about being responsible as such. They might be thrilled to get a baby sitter and not be mum and dad for the day.
It can be a costly affair to have children in attendance as they will need some form of entertainment that adults normally would not. You might look into professionals of all sorts to keep them entertained, magicians, professional sitters, face painters etc and then find that it is all totally out of your budget. Usually if you speak to guests beforehand and let them know that you might not be able to stretch to children’s entertainment and you are worried that they will be bored or that the venue isn’t very kiddie friendly, they will be aware it’s coming when the invitation arrives and more than likely, they will be understanding.
If you have little ones, or even if you don’t and you want to embrace them into your day. There are a million ways in which you can do this. Keep mindful that children will get bored easily and no one thing will entertain all children so you might need to use a couple of methods. If it is a summer wedding, it can be great to get them outdoors, have a craft tent or a bouncy castle… heck make it a full blown mini Glastonbury with face painting and glitter fairies! If that isn’t up your street, then you can scale things down and have a craft table indoors, perhaps a mini cinema with a selection of movies, I have even seen a nap area before which was really charming.
Having professionals to work can be a gift to parents. Carers or pro sitters will alleviate any stress on your guests and enable them to relax and enjoy the day with you. Separate areas are also a must have if possible, this will allow little ones to wander around as they please and not be confined to the dining table which is when most of the irritable tantrums occur. Consider what you feed them and keep it buffet style and light, anything where they can pick at their food works best, little packed lunches or hot dog stands can go down really well. Lose the sweetie tables or anything that will make them go sugar crazy, all that running around will be sure to bring on that mum saying of ‘it will all end in tears’.
Make it seem as if it is a day out for them too! If there are plenty of grounds, spread the activities about, the fresh surroundings should keep them guessing for what is next and stop them from running back to the dining table and insisting mummy must take them to the loo. Encourage them to make friends and then leave them in the capable hands of your chosen entertainers.
Happy planning, see you next week
Love Atlanta Haze x